Ding says:
Dear Anjali aunty and friends,
I am a 27 year old male in love with a much younger girl. I thought she loved me so much till I discovered something recently. I have a best friend who is always with us most of the times. He is a bit tall and boasts of having a big size with every girl he meets. He got married recently.
Last month, all four of us (me and my girlfriend along with him and his wife) went for a winter camp to the hills. After a week of camping, we went back home. After the camping I could visibly see some changes in my girlfriend. She was not talking to me properly and not even wanting to receive any phone calls. I was very much surprised!
One day when we were having sex I tried to talk to her about it. She cried a little bit and asked me to maintain my calm. I got more curious and just told her to tell me whatever it is. Then she told me that she had slept with my best friend during the camping when I was gone with my friend’s wife for a walk to the woods. She begged for forgiveness and told me not to confront my best friend as she promised him not to tell anybody. She also told me she felt really guilty and that was the reason she couldn’t be herself after coming back from camping.
I was completely shocked! I didn’t know what to say. I was stunned and completely speechless. Well during our sex, we used to talk about our fantasies and one of the fantasies used to be my girl having sex with my best friend. Just for creating excitement during the sex, but when it came for real I got completely devastated. I didn’t know what to say. I just stopped the conversation and left the room. I took almost a week to recover from this incident. By then my girlfriend always called me up and my best friend also visited me several times. I was in a very difficult situation because I couldn’t confront my best friend about it as I had made a promise to my girlfriend and I am also worried that his married life will be destroyed.
On the other hand I could not leave my girlfriend because I am in so much love with her. I love her to the extent that I am ready to forgive her but the problem is that my best friend comes now and then to my place. He doesn’t know if my girlfriend has revealed the secret to him or not. Whenever I meet him I cannot be myself as I used to be. He has also noticed it in me. I don’t know how to handle this complicated situation. I have decided in my mind to keep my girlfriend but what to do with my best friend? I feel cheated, I feel like I want to confront him and kick his butt.
Please suggest me my friends.
Regards.
Anjali Aunty says:
Hi Ding,
Before I answer your question, let me say somethings. I carefully read all the previous answers and I am truly amazed at how strong and successful we are becoming as a community. Earlier it used to be the same silly one line questions and I used to play the know-it-all Godmother role. Reading the answers, I realised that there is nothing extra that I could add. Each of you have given amazingly mature personal points of view and all of you are justified in someway or the other. It is upto you Ding to decide which path to choose because you have several open in front of you.
As I see there are two ways… To read the rest of the answer, click here to go to Anjali Aunty’s new blog www.askanjali.com. Leave your comment and win loads of prizes.
The other solution is the one most red blooded persons will take. Confront your best friend and wreck vengeance on his life. Either by directly confronting him and letting his wife know. Or even better, subtly indicating that you know the truth until he is psychologically forced to break down and confess to you. Your are better off without such a friend and slowly phase him out of your life.
I wish you and your girlfriend all the best in life.
-Anjali